First, the unpleasant part
An erotic massage can be given as a surprise, but it’s a gamble where losing can feel unpleasant.
This gift asks something of the person receiving it. To undress in front of a stranger, let themselves be massaged, and feel good about it. If they’re not in the mood for that, it feels more like a task than a gift.
Try to remember whether you’ve ever talked with that person about erotic massages, even jokingly. If not, start with a conversation. The booking can wait.
How to Start Talking About It
The best approach is to offer it as an option you’re still considering. A sentence like “I found this and it’s tempting me—what do you think?” leaves room to say no without anyone feeling awkward.
The second way is to experience it together. A couples massage, where you are both in the same room, is easier for most couples to imagine than sending their partner in alone. No one is left alone with a stranger, and it feels more like an evening you share together.
You don’t need to worry about the voucher.
A paper voucher with a ribbon looks nice in a photo. In practice, it only adds the hassle of figuring out when to actually use it.
The simpler option: you choose a time together, book it, and you pay. The booking is made for a specific time and paid in cash on site, so all you need to do is arrive and have the money with you. The recipient can also choose the masseuse themselves, which is the most important part of the whole experience.
If you want something tangible under the tree, write the appointment date on a card. It works just as well, and no one has to worry about an expiry date.
Leave the choice of masseuse to someone else
This is the most common mistake when choosing a gift for your partner. Picking a masseuse for someone is like choosing a tattoo for them.
The profiles show who offers which massages, what their prices are, and when they are available. Let him browse the masseuse overview himself and choose according to his taste. Your credit is that you came up with the idea and paid for it.
How Much Should You Budget for It?
Prices vary from masseuse to masseuse, as each one sets her own rates. You can find the range based on the length and type of massage in the price list.
For a gift, the longer option is usually the better choice. An hour is lovely, but ninety minutes gives the recipient time to truly relax before they start wondering how much time they have left.
When It’s a Gift for Couples
A couples massage means one room and two masseuses, with each partner having their own. The pace is harmonized so you both stay in the same rhythm.
Before booking, agree on two things together: what is and isn’t allowed to happen, and whether you want to watch each other or would rather not. Awkward silence in the room almost always comes from unspoken expectations. We discuss boundaries and rules in more detail in the article what is and isn’t allowed during an erotic massage.
Three Mistakes That Keep Happening
Booking a specific masseuse on someone else’s behalf. Choosing is half the experience, and this takes that away from the recipient.
Giving the gift in front of family or a group. An erotic massage is a private matter, and if presented publicly, it can turn into a joke the recipient feels forced to play along with.
Don’t quiz them afterwards about every detail of what it was like. Ask once. If they want to talk about it, you’ll hear it from them.
When to postpone the gift
When your partner has been through a demanding time and mostly just needs sleep. Or when you’ve just had an argument and the gift is meant as an apology. And also when you’re not sure whether it might come across as a hint about the lack of sex at home.
An erotic massage is an experience for someone who is genuinely looking forward to it. It will not solve a relationship problem.
